If I was meant to be controlled, I would have come with a remote!

Anyone else relate to this?
I am learning to Stop allowing others to control me.
It took alot of healing from my past.
It also takes daily practice to stick up for myself. To tell my husband * Please don’t tell me what pan to fry the eggs in, please don’t tell me where to put the cheese back in the fridge…I get to make my own choices. I can put the cheese anywhere I want in the fridge.*
I grew up being told how to think, what I should feel, why I should feel it and to do whatever made my mom happy. Her feelings were put above my sister and I’s feelings.
It took into my fifties to realize thats not good to make your child into who YOU WANT THEM TO BE, HOW YOU WANT THEM TO THINK AND ACT.
Sadly, I did the same to my two sons. Trying to get them to be and act a certain way. My oldest fought against it, to the extreme, and I can see his struggles with trying to do this in his own children.
My youngest joined the Army during college and has someone telling him what to do.
In learning that no one gets to control me ever again…its FREEING!
I had to also give up trying to control how my son raises his kids, what choices my sons make, what actions they take….those belong to them. I don’t get a say…unless they ask…but even then…its their life…not mine.
I grew up believing everything I did was a reflection on my parents…thats what they taught us. My husband was taught the same thing and he thought that about our sons. He took it personal when they made a mistake.
My question to you, is have you ever felt controlled? Share if you choose.

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